Dear Men, It’s Time To Stop Asking Women If They “Have Snap” On Dating Apps
There are a lot of things I don’t like about dating apps.
Men voluntarily listing their height then complaining “because apparently, that matters”, people who only upload group photos so you’re left playing Where’s Wally? and that horrific bio about dicks in coffee. But I truly believe there is nothing worse than grown men who ask women if they “have Snap” on dating apps.
Now, hear me out. I’m all for eventually getting off dating apps and talking elsewhere. There’s only so much of a relationship someone can form on Tinder. But what I don’t understand is men asking for your Snapchat username only three dry messages in.
Just slow your roll, speed racer. Pack the boner away and breathe.
Idk why men ask for my sm or Snapchat on dating apps right away – like sir? I do not know you.. it’s like someone walking up to you and saying “hi my name is ____ , can I have your Snapchat?” Like do u realize how weird that would be????
— j ♡ (@argtajen) August 16, 2020
The conversations always go the same way.
A “hey” followed by a “how was your day?” or a “what are you doing?”. There’s zero vibe. No chemistry. And you’re not even sure if you’re even attracted enough to this man to want to continue the conversation. Then, BAM. The dreaded question appears like clockwork:
“You got Snap? What’s your Snap? Add me on Snap.”
Ah yes, totally normal behaviour. Grown men, who cannot hold a conversation to save their life, suddenly asking you to communicate with them solely through an image messaging app even though they couldn’t think up more than 10 words to say to you on Tinder? Instant red flag.
Really, “Snap” only means three possible things when a man asks for it on dating apps: They are a horny, delusional fuckboy who actually expects a total stranger to send him nudes instantly. He has a partner and he’s desperately trying to hide his cheating with messages that auto-delete. Or he’s actually a teenage boy catfishing as a 20-something-year-old man.
Whatever option it is, none of them are good.
yet another man on tinder asking for my snap after a very minimal dry conversation pic.twitter.com/nLzIKfcP0X
— ☆ Freya Jane ☆ (@freyajmanuel) March 14, 2021
At the end of the day, anyone who still uses Snapchat as their preferred form of communication in this day and age is either a 13-year-old or an embarrassingly thirsty grown man with commitment issues.
Look, if it were 2015 and we were still in the iconic DJ Khaled era of Snapchat, I could understand using the app for everything. But there is simply no reason anyone needs to be using that app for dating purposes once they’re out of high school or university.
I get that not everyone is comfortable with giving out their phone number straight away when talking to strangers. I don’t give mine out instantly either for that very reason. But there are other options.
Why not DM me on Instagram or shoot me a message on Facebook? Or, if you really are that nervous about sharing numbers, why not just, I don’t know, stay on Tinder and chat there until we are comfortable enough to move the conversation elsewhere like the grown adults we are?
when guys on dating apps are like “do you wanna talk on snap” actually no i don’t we are both in our mid twenties and have phone numbers ?????
— kate (@BadGurlKate) February 19, 2021
Deleting all of my dating apps because if I get one more message from some boweler over the age of 35 looking for my Snapchat I’m going to ✨ pass ✨ away ✨
— Ciara Dunne (@Ciarabelles) March 6, 2021
men on dating apps be like “can we talk on snapchat? it would be better there” uhhh no we cannot matt, you’re 22, a grown ass man, ask for my number or block me
— cielo (@cielosplaylist) September 8, 2020
Even if your excuse is that you’re fearful of getting catfished and need confirmation of what I look like before we continue talking, we don’t need “Snap” to do that.
Many women are happy to send you that on any medium other than Snapchat. Hell, I’d upload a no-makeup photo of myself holding a spoon above my head and hopping on one foot before I download that demonic app ever again for a man.
Basically, what I’m trying to say here is: You just cannot be 34 and genuinely think it’s normal to be asking a 27-year-old woman if they “have Snap” at your big age. Because even if I wanted just a hookup and have some fun with you, once you mention Snapchat, the thought of you makes every part of me shrivel up and want to die.
So men, please stop asking if we “have Snap” when you message us on a dating app. I’m begging you.
responding to men on dating apps who ask for my snapchat pic.twitter.com/qTY6mFeNiP
— claire annette (@tonyahardinstan) June 29, 2021
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
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