The Best Way To Flirt With Each Star Sign
Before you roll your eyes and huff, “What do star signs have to do with flirting,” take a breather, grab a beverage and be a smidge more welcoming to new ideas pls.
Zodiac signs can help you understand communication avenues and open up some juicy options when striking up conversations with new people, so while they shouldn’t be seen as gospel for hitting on a cutie, they might give you the confidence boost to get chatting. Plus, a lot of people really give a hoot about the zodiac, with Tinder reporting that 30% of swipers check their match’s star sign before going on a first date.
Sending a zodiac-fuelled opening message on a dating app to someone that takes into account their star sign shows them that you’ve properly read their profile and that you’re paying attention to their interests. And, tbh, anything is better than dropping a boring “hi” and watching your match ghost you for life.
Speaking to Sera Bozza (Tinder’s local dating expert and the founder of Sideswiped), she explains how star sign science can play into those early dating chats – filtering the chaos into ‘cosmic clues’ and ‘cosmic cop-outs’.
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Here’s what she has to say:
“Star signs can help you understand your own and other people’s personalities, and talking about them can be a great icebreaker, especially if you’re both into it. Star signs are a fun, playful way to dive into deeper chats because they’re a shared language that instantly adds a layer of connection. And let’s be real: people who are into their star signs often use their expertise to hold a mirror to their behaviours, preferences, and needs, making it a great self-awareness tool, fostering personal growth and all that good stuff.”
But there is a flip side, with people using their star signs to validate crummy behaviour.
“People tend to see what they want to see, turning star signs into a game of cosmic confirmation bias. If you’re using star signs as your ride-or-die, you’ll spot traits that confirm your beliefs and dismiss others,” says Sera. “This reinforces stereotypes and limits your understanding of people as unique individuals.”
“Star signs can become a cosmic cop-out. ‘I’m a Scorpio, so I’m just naturally jealous’ is an excuse. Real growth comes from owning and working on your flaws, not blaming the stars. Your behaviour is a decision. Own it.”
So what’s the takeaway? Well, use star signs as a playful tool, not a hard rule. Use them to help you connect with your matches, not limit your matches.
No cosmic cheat sheet needed but here’s some star-studded openers for each star sign… (and then after this, the flirting is all down to you, cutie).
♑ Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
“What’s the best career advice you’ve gotten?”
“What’s your next big goal?”
♒ Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
“If you could invent something, what would it be?”
“You’ve just won a free flight to anywhere! Where are you headed?”
“What’s the weirdest hobby you have? Don’t hold back.”
♓ Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
“What’s a dream that’s stuck with you?”
“What’s your most creative outlet?”
“What’s a dream you’re working towards?”
♈ Aries (March 21 – April 19)
“What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done?”
“What’s the craziest adventure you’ve ever been on?”
♉ Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
“What’s your idea of the perfect weekend?”
“What’s a comfort food you can’t resist?”
♊ Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
“What topic can you go on about for hours?”
“What’s your favourite podcast?”
“What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?”
♋️ Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
“What’s your go-to comfort activity?”
“What movie always makes you feel good?”
♌️ Leo (July 23 – August 22)
“What’s your favourite way to entertain friends?”
“What’s your go-to karaoke song?”
♍️ Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
“What’s a life hack you swear by?”
“What DIY project are you most proud of?”
♎️ Libra (September 23 – October 22)
“What’s your idea of a perfect day?”
“What’s your favourite thing to do to relax?”
“What’s the last place you visited that blew you away?”
♏️ Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
“What’s a recent passion project you’ve started?”
“Ever listened to the ‘Everybody Has a Secret’ podcast?”
“Are you into Murder Mystery parties?”
♐️ Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
“What’s been your favourite holiday ever?”
“What’s top three on your travel bucket list? No limits.”
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